同事不喜歡自己怎么辦

　　q: i treat my co-workers politely and warmly at work. but many of them don’t like me. i don’t know why and feel distressed.

　　問：我在工作中對待同事既友好又熱情，但他們中的許多人卻不喜歡我。我不知道為什么并且覺得很苦惱。

　　a: have you ever thought about your own attitude at work? perhaps that is the reason why people do not like you. for many of us it is easy to look at others and blame them instead of ourselves. after all,we are human.

　　when something doesn’t go the way it is supposed to at work, “oh, so-and-so didn’t do this and that”. often times you forget your own roles that you did not perform. your attitude is looking at other’s fault first before you point the accusing finger at yourself.

　　答：你思考過你自己的工作態(tài)度嗎?也許這正是人們不喜歡你的原因。對于我們許多人來說，很容易看到他人的錯誤并責怪他們，而不是從自身找原因。畢竟我們都是凡人。當一些本該完成的工作偏離了正常軌道時，“噢，那個誰和那個誰沒有做這個和那個”。你經常會忘記你自己沒有履行的職責，而更愛先挑其他人的錯誤，其次才輪到自己。

　　perhaps when you realize that people at work do not like you, it is time to look at your own attitude. have the wisdom and will power to know that you can make a positive change. when you improve yourself, you increase the chances of career success.

　　也許當你意識到在工作中人們不喜歡你時，你應審視自己的工作態(tài)度。憑借智慧和毅力找到你能做出的積極改變。當你完善了自我，邁向職業(yè)成功的`機會就會增加。

　　the harder you try, the worse it gets

　　你越努力，情況就變得越糟

　　there are people whom the harder you try to please, the less they reciprocate in kind. in fact, they treat you worse. you think to yourself, they have a bad attitude at work. and you may be right. but what can you do with your own attitude? in this case, my advice to you is to stop trying to be nice. i am not saying start being nasty.all i am advocating is to be nonchalant.

　　對于有些人，你越想努力使他們高興，他們越不能以友好態(tài)度回報你。事實上，他們對你的態(tài)度反而變糟了。你在心里暗想，他們的工作態(tài)度不好。你也許是正確的，但你可以就自己的態(tài)度做些什么呢?在這種情況下，我建議你不要再努力示好。我不是說你應該開始變得讓人討厭，而是主張你要表現得若無其事。

　　take a step back

　　后退一步

　　when you are able to detach yourself from it, you begin to see a clearer picture. think about your attitude at work. are you being sincere with your words and deeds?

　　當你抽身后退一步時，你就能開始將局面看得更清楚。思考一下你的工作態(tài)度。你平時的言行是否誠懇?你能充滿愉悅地工作而不對他人有要求嗎?自我反省并改進你的工作態(tài)度。當然，工作態(tài)度問題解決起來比較困難。雖然困難，但它并不是不可解決的。有些時候，我們最好從自我做起。