Of Friendship 論友誼
It had been hard for him that spake it, to have put more truth and untruth together in few words, than in that speech; Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast, or a god. For it is most true, that a natural and secret hatred, and aversion towards society, in any man, hath somewhat of the savage beast; but it is most untrue, that it should have any character at all of the divine nature; except it proceed, not out of a pleasure in solitude, but out of a love and desire to sequester a man\'s self, or a higher conversation: such as is found, to have been falsely and feignedly, in some of the heathen; as Epimenides the Candian, Numa the Roman, Empedocles the Sicilian, and Apollonius of Tyana; and truly and really, in divers of the ancient hermits, and holy fathers of the Church.
“喜歡孤獨(dú)的人不是野獸便是神靈”。說這話的人若要在寥寥數(shù)語之中,更能把真理和邪說放在一處,那就很難了。因?yàn),若說一個(gè)人心里有了一種天生的,隱秘的,對(duì)社會(huì)的憎恨嫌棄,則那個(gè)人不免帶點(diǎn)野獸底性質(zhì),這是極其真實(shí)的;然而要說這樣的一個(gè)人居然有任何神靈底性質(zhì),則是極不真實(shí)的。只有一點(diǎn)可為例外,那就是當(dāng)這種憎恨社會(huì)的心理不是出于對(duì)孤獨(dú)的愛好而是出于一種想把自己退出社會(huì)以求更崇高的生活的心理的時(shí)候;這樣的人異教徒中有些人曾冒充過,如克瑞蒂人埃辟曼尼底斯羅馬人努馬西西利人安辟道克利斯和蒂安那人阿波郎尼亞斯是也;而基督教會(huì)中許多的古隱者和長(zhǎng)老則確有如此者。
But little do men perceive, what solitude is, and how far it extendeth. For a crowd is not company; and faces are but a gallery of pictures; and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love.
但是一般人并不大明白何為孤獨(dú)以及孤獨(dú)底范圍。因?yàn)樵跊]有“仁愛”的地方,一群的人眾并不能算做一個(gè)團(tuán)體,許多的面目也僅僅是一列圖畫;而交談則不過是鐃鈸丁令作聲而已。
The Latin adage meeteth with it a little; magna civitas, magna solitude; because in a great town, friends are scattered; so that there is not that fellowship, for the most part, which is in less neighbourhoods. But we may go further, and affirm most truly; that it is a mean and miserable solitude, to want true friends; without which the world is but a wilderness: and even in this sense also of solitude, whosoever in the frame of his nature and affections is unfit for friendship, he taketh it of the beast, and not from humanity.
這種情形有句拉丁成語略能形容之:“一座大城市就是一片大荒野”;因?yàn)樵谝蛔蟪鞘欣锱笥褌兪巧⒕痈魈幍模跃推浯蟾哦,不象在小一點(diǎn)的城鎮(zhèn)里,有那樣的交情。但是我們不妨更進(jìn)一步并且很真實(shí)地?cái)嘌哉f,缺乏真正的朋友乃是最純粹最可憐的孤獨(dú);沒有友誼則斯世不過是一片荒野;我們還可以用這個(gè)意義來論“孤獨(dú)”說,凡是天性不配交友的人其性情可說是來自禽獸而不是來自人類的。
A principal fruit of friendship is the ease and discharge of the fullness and swellings of the heart, which passions of all kinds do cause and induce. We know diseases of stoppings, and suffocations, are the most dangerous in the body; and it is not much otherwise in the mind: you may take sarza to open the liver; steel to open the spleen; flower of sulphur for the lungs; castoreum for the brain; but no receipt openeth the heart, but a true friend, to whom you may impart griefs, joys, fears, hopes, suspicions, counsels, and whatsoever lieth upon the heart, to oppress it, in a kind of civil shrift or confession.
友誼底主要效用之一就在使人心中的憤懣抑郁之氣得以宣泄弛放,這些不平之氣是各種的情感都可以引起的。閉塞之癥于人底身體最為兇險(xiǎn),這是我們知道的;在人底精神方面亦復(fù)如此;你可以服撒爾沙以通肝,服鋼以通脾;服硫華以通肺;服海貍膠以通腦;然而除了一個(gè)真心的朋友之外沒有一樣藥劑是可以通心的。對(duì)一個(gè)真心的朋友你可以傳達(dá)你底憂愁、歡悅、恐懼、希望、疑忌、諫諍,以及任何壓在你心上的事情,有如一種教堂以外的懺悔一樣。
It is a strange thing to observe how high a rate great kings and monarchs do set upon this fruit of friendship, whereof we spoke: so great, as they purchase it, many times, at the hazard of their own safety, and greatness. For princes, in regard of the distance of their fortune from that of their subjects and servants, cannot gather this fruit, except (to make themselves capable thereof) they raise some persons, to be as it were companions, and almost equals to themselves, which many times sorteth to inconvenience.
許多偉大的人主帝王對(duì)于我們所說的友誼底效用之重視在我們看起來實(shí)為可異。他們之重視友誼,至于往往不顧自己底安全與尊榮以求之。蓋為人君者,由于他們與臣民之間地位上的距離的原故,是不能享受友誼的——除非他們(為使自己能享受友誼起見)把某人擢升到他們底伴侶或儕輩底地位,然而這樣做底結(jié)果往往是有不便的。